For those who live under the rock, Carpe Diem is latin for seize the day. It's something I carry around with me within my blog's domain as much as I apply it into my everyday life. It's that little something to remind me of what's important in my life. This subject I'm going to write about is a difficult one for myself but could be for others, I am a sensitive person so please bare with me on this..




Death is an inevitable process of life. For some of us we have already dealt with the loss of someone who we know or of a friend or someone even closer to them, family. We may have encountered death this year or a few years ago, maybe even longer but it still affects us today. Life doesn't prepare you for how you'll deal with it, all of us will cope with it differently. No way to grief is correct, presumed or expected of you. I've lost a few people close to me, nothing hurt more than the loss of my Grandad in 2006, I felt like my world fell apart. I didn't know how to cope, I don't remember a lot of the weeks after his death. I was completely numb. I didn't go school for a while and was attempting to accept that life goes on. I was thrown into that confusion again in July 2013 when Emma passed away after fighting Cystic Fibrosis and just recently two more people Andrew and Katie with the same condition. I felt numb. I didn't know them all that well, most of our conversations was based around our interests or through determination to raise the profile of Organ Donation is inspirational and I felt like they inspired me to want to seize the day just as much as they did in their short life.

Nobody knows when we will die, but if we did would we live our life to it's fullest? People who are born with genetic conditions or are diagnosed with life changing conditions everyday, do they stop living? Do you see them close the door and ignore the opportunities to make something of themselves, to leave a legacy to their friends and family.



If death has given me perspective over the years it would be that life really is too short. We're a generation of moaners and we vent this through our social media platforms on an occasional basis (i'm bad for this too and it's hard not to sometimes!) whether that is today's weather making it difficult for you to take your perfectly lit blog pictures or your just having a crap day in general with work commitments and bills to pay. We all have them and out there people are having a harder day than we are. Some people today are being told they just have days to live or that their loved one has passed away. I'm sure they're not thinking about the weather outside or that badly lit blog photo that they took so many times, pesky English weather I know!

I guess being surrounded by people who have genetic conditions has given me a broader perspective and I am just lucky it's given me the Carpe Diem or YOLO attitude that I carry so proudly on my shoulders. But we can all have that attitude if you learn to understand that life really is too short and we should live it to it's fullest each day. I say this as I spend my day off typing this blog post instead of going for a walk or reading a book. I'm not saying to plug off your blogs, we know this won't happen but just to seize your days guys! What do you want your legacy to be? The fact you spent most of your days on Twitter giving running commentary on the Great British Bake Off or that you had a great day with your friend or a family member that they'll always remember with a smile etched on their face, OR even you baked them a great cake that day and it inspired them to do some baking at the weekend. I didn't meet Emma in the short time I knew her but her legacy to me was a last conversation we had on Facebook weeks before she died in regards to raising the profile of Organ Donation and names on the register, since then I wrote a blog post and in a couple of weeks I'm doing a blog each day in relation to that for National Transplant Week. She's left me a legacy and something to gain perspective on and I'm sure if you've lost someone, it's given you perspective on something too.
But we also should be sensitive that a death of somebody shouldn't make us all of a sudden change perspective, we should do it anyway without an excuse


So when you read this post grab your notebook, a pen, a cup of tea, stick on your favourite soundtrack and write everything you want to accomplish in your life. Kind of like a bucket list but just a firm reminder of the little things you want to make happen in your life to make it a happier place to live in. Stop sitting on Twitter for the majority of your day, go look out into your garden or for a walk where you can look afar, life is beautiful. Appreciate those friends of yours, tell them they're incredible or that you love them.. arrange a catch up with coffee or a day trip soon. Get the date in your diary! Even contact those you haven't spoken in months and reconnect because life is too short for the little grudges of childhood days. Obviously there's some people better left out of your life so maybe don't contact them but acknowledge that things happen for a reason and move on.

Or why not grab your notebook like I am planning to do with the one featured in the post's pictures and write everyday 5 things that made you smile or grateful today, I did have a planner for this but I've decided to wait until 2016 because I never made full use of it. But do it, get motivated to make a change in your life.

If your like me and aren't satisfied in the current job your in, get yourself motivated and apply for jobs. Apply for the jobs that apply to what you'd like to do in five years time, don't go for a job because of it's wage or because it's there because you aren't guaranteed that just having money will make you happy. We spend the majority of our lives working so you may as well attempt to make it an enjoyable experience somehow. There's literally no point in being unhappy in what your doing, it not affects the mood of yourself but those around you who want you to be happy.

If there's a friendship or relationship really bugging you, stop biting your tongue and let that person know that they've upset you and you need to chat. Better out than in and they may be unaware of their actions and how it's affecting you. You can get through this niggle if you just talk and if your relationship/friendship seizes to exist after a while, you can say at least you tried to patch up the solution and you'll move on anyway.

WHY don't you get involved with a cause close to your heart? Or do a massive clear out and donate your old/unneeded clothes to charity. Or even commit some of your freetime to a local charity or gain some experience long-term in a charity. There's so many opportunities out there to make a difference and do good in your local community, just do it.





I hope this post has given you a bit of perspective or a kick up the ass, I've needed it so bad lately and I am sure I am not the only person needing more motivation in my life in general. 

So tell me, what do you want your legacy to be?

Now Carpe Diem, seize the day! 
thanks for reading,